[one_half_last]Welcome to the Addiction Recovery Blog RoundUp for the this week. The second month of the year – I hope it finds you well. Happy reading.
Driving While High/Stoned/Drunk
This is a great post about driving, thinking through scenarios, and boundaries. Ahhh….Boundaries. That moment when we make a difficult decision that may affect others. When the person in our lives is struggling with addiction, setting boundaries can be so very difficult. It feels like we are punishing them.[/one_half_last] At Parents of an Addict this week, I LOVE what Ron says about this: “”I” means boundary, “You” means rule.” When we tell others what we are or can do, we are controlling what we have control over – ourselves. Remember that you can’t change what others do or how they react….but you can change what you do.
This poem posted over at Sunny Sanguinity has been around for a long time. And I agree with Rebecca: “Because it isn’t about trying harder. It’s about trying different. “ We can’t make changes with the same mindset that got us to the bad spot in the first place. You have to take different steps.
Thank You, Teacher
A lot of what I try to teach clients revolves around thinking – paying attention to your thoughts, acknowledging first thoughts, changing second thoughts, and looking at how your thoughts and behaviors match your values and beliefs. All part of the cognitive behavioral strategy. It is why Mr. SponsorPants’ post this week really resonated with me. He is talking about being in the moment, and changing his thinking around judgment of others. As he notes, he still has that first thought come in whatever it may be, but he is working to control and change the second thought consistently. Challenging…and brilliant!
Things I deal With….
Finally, I want you to know, everyone deals with stuff. We all have feelings, baggage, and thoughts we can’t control. This is true for someone who is dealing with sobriety as well as someone who does not struggle with addiction issues. Mrs. D is Going Without is talking this week about the things she is struggling with and she also about joy and contentment. I love her idea of storing it up – don’t we all need to do more of that?
That’s all for this week. Thanks for stopping by – have a great weekend!
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