Here is last week’s Addiction Blog RoundUp. I spent last week trying to catch up from being gone, and was not so successful! So this post is several days late. Ah well, still some interesting reading. Enjoy!
About My Hubby, Sobriety, and Relationships
MagzShores over at Sober Courage is talking about the completely different individuals that she and her husband are and how they reached recovery in completely different ways. At the end of the post, she has some one liners that she says help her in creating and maintaining healthy relationships. I like all of the ones she has chosen but my favorite is: “What others do is based on them, not you”. I always believe that you have to remember this in all of your relationships and interactions.
Supporting Recovery Without Enabling
The post on the Smart Recovery blog this week is talking about how best to help someone who is trying to overcome an addiction. This post addresses the differences between enabling and support, and identifies that paying attention allows us to support the individual without shielding someone from negative consequences.
Can I Stop Being a Parent Now
At Parent Pathway, MomShiningLight is talking about being exhausted as a parent. And while this is true for all parents on some level (remember when your kids were toddlers?!), it is especially true for parents of children who have a substance use disorder. She is struggling with her unmet expectations and recently realized that her serenity is affected by how she handles her expectations and that she has control over that. We do have control over how we develop and manage our expectations. And to maintain our serenity, we have to monitor them. Every. Single. Day.
A Post by Carrie
Here is a gut honest post about codependency over on Addiction Journal. Carrie is a parent writing about her experience with herself during her son’s active addiction. I totally agree with her point that addiction is a family disease. She additionally notes: “Because addiction can be classified as a family disease, doesn’t it make sense that if all don’t work toward recovery, none will actually recover?”. Well said. The challenge is getting family members to recognize the truth of that statement.
Trust – The Firewall to Fear
Tracey Jackson is writing about trust (faith) and fear over at Gratitude and Trust. She identifies several big picture ideas of trust and notes: “…most importantly, trust (faith) demands that we let go of fear”. I have always believed that we are either living in faith or living in fear and that you can’t do both. This is always a good gut check too – where are you putting your energy today – trust or fear?
That wraps this post up – thanks for reading!
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